Son cuts off contact with rich dad and stepsiblings after dad accuses him of not meeting the family standards, claiming he doesn't fit in: ‘Now I'm really done with him’

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    AITAH for blocking all contact with my stepsiblings as well when my dad said I don't meet the standards to be in his family?

    A while ago, my dad called me out of the blue to tell me that he didn't like that I mentioned I had a sister (whom he has no contact with) when someone asked if I'm only child at the wedding of my step brother.
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    He also told me that I don't fit in 'his family' because he remarried into a rich family and although I live very comfortable, I am completely self made but not rich.
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    (We're speaking millions in his new family). Basically, he wanted to cut off contact with me and my kids because of these things.
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    It's in total the third time he 'dumped' me, but stupid me was too loyal and always kept him in my life.
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    Now I'm really done with him. But because it hurts, I decided to also block my stepsiblings (didn't grow up together since there was never made room for me, so not a tight bond between us) although they did nothing wrong to me.
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    I just don't want to stumble upon their happy family life. Am I the a hle for cutting contact with them as well?
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    I didn't explain it to them, just did it because I know I will get sh from multiple people if i try to explain because they adore my dad (he is everything to them he never was with me),
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    my dad is also a clear narcissist and is masking, so his environment will never believe how he treated me because I'm one of the few who knows him a long time and knows when he's bullshitting to have people adore him.
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    Old Cheek1076 Nope. Unfortunately they are casualties of your father's awfulness. NTA.
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    pephm Be aware that down the line if his mask slips and the steps realize who he is, he will come back to use you. Don't let him back in.
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    LolaSupreme19 Haha! Your dad is a narcissist. He didn't like that you wouldn't deny the existence of a sibling? Is he rewriting history? Having a relationship with him requires you deny reality and change reality to match his. NTA
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    Frosty_Noise_4844 OP Your last sentence actually really helps me, thank you.
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    Whereswolf NTA... But I would tell them something along the lines of "Dad has again decided I'm not good enough to be part of his family. I cannot keep being put down whenever something doesn't suit his life, so for my own mental health I'm completely cutting
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    the bond. I wish you all a happy life and I'm sorry, but I can't go on being treated like this and the only way I can stop it is by not engaging anymore. That unfortunately also means I will not be in contact with you guys, but I'm sure you'll manage and understand. If not now, then down the road when dad lost his last little scapegoat"
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    Frosty_Noise_4844 OP The thing is, they don't know anything about how my dad treats me since all they saw is 'the amazing dad'. My stepmother never wanted me to be a part of her family because 'Having 5 kids is too much' (she has 4 of her own), so they were
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    already not inviting me to family stuff, only to some. But I guess they painted a picture to my stepsiblings that I couldn't or didn't want to come. I never was allowed to be in the family whatsapp group for example (I know the existence because my dad added me and then removed me a half an hour later, but I already saw the group had years of existence)
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    Trailsya NTA Don't let dad back in. Chances are he will show up some time again (like when he breaks up or if people are asking about his daughter). Don't give him anything
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    Frosty_Noise_4844 OP Yes, rationally, I agree, Emotionally, that's hard, because I feel like an orphan then.
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    Hidden Vixen21 Honestly. Will they care that you blocked them? Or do you just hope they do.
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    Frosty Noise_4844 OP Yeah, I think you're right. It only adds to the position like 'look, she blocked you, so I (my father) am to be comforted because my own kids don't want me and I did nothing wrong.' I don't have much family anymore on that side (my grandmother c'd last year) and sadly, all remaining family blindly adores my dad. I guess what you're saying is right and I'm just hurting.
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